Self to Lose, Self to Find:
Using the Enneagram to Uncover Your True, God-Gifted Self

This book examines the invitation of Jesus to lose yourself in order to find your true self, and presents the personality system known as the Enneagram within a Biblical framework.

Self to Lose, Self to Find features:

  • a scriptural foundation for how the Enneagram personality tool can lead to greater freedom in one’s spiritual, emotional, and relational life
  • an easy-to-follow description of the system and the nine personality types
  • prayers for each Enneagram type
  • a practical process to experience more freedom called OWN-UP

This is a rare find! Marilyn Vancil weaves three threads — the biblical story, the Enneagram wisdom, and real-life experiences ­­­­­­— into this compelling and essential resource for those who long for a more free and fruitful life. This grounded, hands-on offering is a rare gift indeed!”

John Kiemele, PhD
Spiritual Director and Wellness Educator

"I love this woman and I love this book! Rooted in her deep understanding of the Enneagram, Marilyn Vancil takes us on a spiritual journey of discovering what it really means to follow Jesus. Self to Lose, Self to Find is an accessible, biblical and practical roadmap for anyone who wants to live fully into their true, authentic, God-given identity. I highly recommend it!"

Brenda Salter McNeil, Author of “Becoming Brave: Finding the Courage to Pursue Racial Justice Now”

"In Self To Lose, Self To Find Marilyn Vancil unpacks the wisdom of the Enneagram while grounding it in Biblical truth and Christ-centered spiritual formation. Marilyn simplifies the complexity of the Enneagram by making it accessible and transformational at the same time. This is a valuable book for anyone seeking to grow in self-awareness as they walk with Christ. Marilyn has assisted SoulFormation as a writer and as a communicator… she makes a unique contribution to anyone who wants to use the Enneagram as a tool to shape their spiritual journey."

Morris Dirks, SoulFormation / Founder and Executive Director
Author of "Forming The Leader’s Soul"

"One of the reasons Vancil’s book is at the top of the list of my Enneagram recommendations is because she’s so deeply anchored in the biblical reality of who we are created to be and who God is. She doesn’t let the adapted, old self have the final word. While she names the painful shadow side, she continually invites us on a journey of transformation. Such a powerful book."

Chuck DeGroat, PH.D.
Professor of Pastoral Care and Christian Spirituality
Senior Fellow, Newbigin House of Studies
Licensed Professional Counselor, MI

"Marilyn, with theological insight and eloquence, has built a bridge that wonderfully connects Biblical teachings with the clean, concise patterns of the Enneagram. This book is both practical and thought-provoking, especially for the Christian seeking to be a better follower of Jesus."

The Rev. Doyt L. Conn, Jr. Rector, Epiphany Parish Seattle

"In a society strapped to self-sufficiency, it is rare to find Enneagram wisdom that is truly wise. Vancil brings together our being and our becoming, hidden not simply in the depths of our own selves, but in the heart of Christ."

K.J. Ramsey, Therapist and Author of "This Too Shall Last: Finding Grace When Suffering Lingers"

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Deepen your understanding and experience of the content of my new edition, Self to Lose – Self to Find: Using the Enneagram to Uncover Your True, God-Gifted Self, by personally and prayerfully engaging with the questions offered in this Reflection Workbook. It is designed to facilitate movement from merely gaining information to experiencing “holy aha moments” that will lead to personal transformation and spiritual renewal.

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